Poetic Justice: He Beat Me, It's My Fault.....Right???!!

You've been beating my ass for 7 long years

My darling husband I don't think I have any more tears

I promised that I would be loyal, supportive and true

but it seems like that was never good enough for you

You always threaten that if I leave there will be a repercussion

but I didn't know getting milk for the baby would cause me a concussion

your insecurities have spilled over, what happened to my four leaf clover

We were once Bonnie and Clyde, I was so pleased to be your bride

Now I'm sitting here in my own pool of blood caused by your fist and a broom

I'm petrified and in so much pain but I hear my baby girl crying in the next room

What did I do this time to get you pissed? Oh yeah, how could I forget I asked you for a kiss.

Silly of me to forget rule 29, when the game is on never approach you from behind

I was trying to make up for upsetting you last night

What did I do again? Oh yeah I was reading and forgot to turn off the light

I'm feeling kind of dizzy, must be the blood loss

but if I pass out, there will be cops and this we avoid at all cost

Oh goodness I hear you calling, what did I do wrong

Let me hurry and stand up I need my man to see I'm strong

Wait, what's that in his hand my eyes swollen so its hard to see

It looks kind of metallic, did my man buy something special for me?

Oh no, please don't tell me that's what I think it could be

I'm your wife, your lover, the mother of your child

This can not be happening, my mind is going wild

I'm looking at this nigga about to pull this trigger

my vows flash before me, is this how it will end

Till death do us part, I love you with all my heart

I close my eyes and yell a loud roar

As I open them I see him fall to the floor

You see I made a decision that my life's worth much more

I knew that 45 would come in handy behind the door

R.I.P.....Mother Fucker

Sexual Anorexia??!! WTF Is That???!!!!!

One evening this week, I watched a program that felt uncomfortably familiar. A young married couple came on and a husband started speaking of his difficulty in having sex with his wife. He said he would find ways to avoid having sex with her. It varied from picking fights, to staying up late or falling asleep before her. He was not having issues with impotence because he would masturbate regularly and was able to get easily aroused. His issues would only come about when sex was initiated with his wife. They went from having sex a few times a day, to having sex a few times a week, to having sex once a month, to once every few months. His wife had an extremely healthy sexual appetite and this quickly became a problem. She started to wonder if infidelity was a factor or if her husband was gay. She even went as far as making her husband take a lie detector test and be hypnotized. There marriage was on the brink of breaking up and they were not in a good place. I tell people all the time, sex in a relationship is more important than we care to admit. The husband was completely confused as to what he was going through because he was very much attracted to his wife and still sexually desired her. He was just not able to perform sexually with her. The act of sex with his wife became emotionally stressful, but he could not figure it out. As a last attempt to save there marriage, they went to a doctor to see if there was something medically wrong with him. What this couple found out was something they both never heard of, but felt relieved with the diagnosis. This husband had something called "Sexual Anorexia." Sexual Anorexia is a term used to describe a loss of "appetite" for romantic-sexual interaction. Basically, the person has a fear of intimacy to the point of severe anxiety when it comes to sex that requires being emotionally vested. Usually common in an intimate relationship. What is so confusing about sexual anorexia is that you/they commonly appear to have a sexual addiction, but more accurately fit the definition of sexual anorexic. They seem to lack the ability to have a relationship of a sexual nature beyond a paid-for or anonymous experience. Having sex is not the problem, intimacy is. A sex addict is often married or in a committed relationship before deciding or realizing that treatment for the addiction is needed. Hence the reason it took this husband getting married before he even realized he had a problem. A sexual anorexic may have a social phobia or be so fragile emotionally that the risk of rejection or criticism is debilitating. This fear of rejection stems from the person being so emotionally invested with there partner, that it ultimately cripples them of the ability to be sexually intimate. I share this with my readers, for fear that many of us are incorrectly self diagnosed. However, most importantly I feel as though many relationships are in danger of dissolving as a result of Sexual Anorexia. In no way am I condoning infidelity, but I think we should be open to these possibilities. Especially, when we have a partner that is a repeat offender with cheating. A relationship is work, and requires much attentiveness in order to preserve it. I think as human beings, when we share ourselves sexually it is such a personal expression, that we tend to be less understanding, forgiving or patient when our partner cheats. We are unwilling to be open to the possibility that our partner may be experiencing psychological issues. As with any disease, some are incurable. After an honest attempt to remedy the "disorder", then you have to decide what will be best for you and your sanity. I think it is important to reach out for professional or mature help. We can't expect change by us demanding it or expecting it. Our partner may be dealing with deep emotional scars from their childhood. It's 100x more difficult for a man to admit sexual abuse at a young age for fear of embarrassment. This past could lead to a distorted view of what a healthy sexual relationship should look like. I write this post with an extremely heavy heart, because I can now understand better the reason for some of my relationships not working out. I chalked it up to me just being bored and needing someone that was more "sexually compatible." I failed to remember that at one point this person/s matched me quite well, but once it no longer became a challenge I lost interest. I felt solice in knowing there is help for Sexual Anorexia. Treatment is aimed at helping the person see where his/her fears really are and to see the world in less black and white terms. Therapist will encourage you/us to take calculated risks with social activities. The goals for both sex addicts and sexual anorexics is to learn to have healthy sex, get emotional needs met in direct ways, and to set healthy boundaries. It requires ongoing treatment with the end goal of autonomy, independence, and improved social relationships. Be open to the possibility, knowledge is power.



Having this blog has been such an amazing vice for me. I have acquired fans all over the world that share and appreciate the things I talk about. This will be my 100th post since the launch of NinaNiagra and I want to thank EVERYONE (including my haters) for your continued support in making this blog successfull.

In the News: Kat Stacks Locked Up!!!

At this point its probably old news, but the infamous celebrity slut bucket Kat Stacks (@ihateKatStacks on twitter) was arrested 2 days ago for some immigration issues. She is originally from Venezuela and apparently she recently filed for citizenship. Well for those of you that don't know, they do the mother load of background checks on your ass when you do that and it looks like some things came up that may end up getting her deported. She was at the airport in Nashville and security was giving her problems. These were her tweets as it was going on:

Check out her last tweets as she is getting arrested:

Her mother (@momma_stacks on twitter) and her management team (@Qworldstar on twitter), have been tweeting on her behalf on occasion letting her "fans" know whats going on with her. Truthfully, I think this bitch was set up. It would have been too dangerous and suspect to kill her ass but they may end up getting her where it hurts most, her "hoeaccount."....LMAO

Like I always say, Karma is a bitch and she is ALWAYS on time!!!

Want a Threesome?? Let Me Help You Make it Happen. Here's How!!

It is almost every mans fantasy to have more than one woman in the bedroom. However, the truth of the matter is not many of these men can HANDLE two women in the bedroom. That is a topic for another blog, but I will address this one to the men that can. More women than you would believe are up to the idea of bringing another women in the bedroom. The biggest barrier from actually making it happen is the insecurities that come along with it. This is where you have to be the most attentive and provide the most assurance. If you are verbally abusive towards your woman and make her feel insecure with you by herself, she's going to be a harder sell for bringing in another party. Never make her feel that your bringing in a woman that has something she does not. The third party should be considered a tool to enhance that sexual moment. I stress the word "moment" and not "experience" because in her mind that's what this should be in order for her to feel comfortable. The experience is something you and her share, this extra person is just a temporary addition for that "moment" and can be placed to the side at any time and on her cue. Your woman MUST feel in control of the situation at all times. This is not the time to start pounding on your chest and letting your ego, cockiness or testosterone kick in. Stay away from comparisons and giving your opinion on what you think about the other woman. Believe it or not, this is a test from your girl. She wants to know, if this should go down, what about this other bitch is going to catch your attention the most. If the other woman has a fat ass and your girl is lacking, DO NOT bring it up!! Especially, if your woman has made mention of her flat ass being an insecurity. Ok, so how do you begin to plant the seed of interest? Start of watching porn with her. Stick to your usual guy on girl initially, then one day slip in a girl on girl flick and see how she reacts. Don't get too excited! Keep the focus on her, almost pretend you don't even see the flick. Here is where you really want to focus on alot of foreplay. Play with the pussy with every part of your body EXCEPT your dick. A perfect response would be her becoming very horny and start pleasing the hell outta you but don't encourage it. Say, "no baby I'm good. I just wanna inhale every ounce of you tonight." Make that night of sex be all about her. Oil her body, kiss on her nipples, suck her toes, lightly massage the back of her knee caps, etc. When you're done ask her if she enjoyed it? Not the flick, but the sex you guys had. Don't introduce it yet. Observe how much she pays attention to the flick, and make small comments like "damn that's beautiful." Nothing too sexual. After about a few times doing this (over a 3 or so week time period depending on how often you have sex) say this to her. "Baby, you know I notice your pussy gets really wet when we have those girl on girl movies playing. You have this glow about you and it really turns me on. I love to see when you get that excited, I just can't get enough of you." What she says after this can be the deal breaker. The key is patience and being passive. If you seem too antsy or aggressive, it will come off suspect. The next step is to get her in that environment but in a live setting. Schedule a romantic evening with your girl. Dinner at her favorite restaurant and maybe even a movie. Make sure you tell her throughout the night how gorgeous she looks. Not too much, you don't want to seem fake or overdo it. When dinner is done, take her to a classy strip club. I emphasize classy. If more than 30% of the strippers have bullet wounds and look a hot mess, not a good idea to take her to there. Remember, give her complete control. Watch her body language and by now she should have had a few drinks in her from dinner. If she questions why you brought her there say: "I'm sorry if I offended you baby. I couldn't help notice how excited you get when you watch the flicks, so I thought I would surprise you and let you see some of it live. If you're not comfortable we can leave right now, because this is all about you. I'm good with what I have at home." If she bites, then you are on your way. If she doesn't, then that means you may have been too hasty, not following my instructions to the T and need to start the process again. Whatever you do, do not get a lap dance for yourself!!! It's all about her! When you guys get home, have another amazing "all about her" love making session and get her feedback. Ask her if she enjoyed herself? Based on how she reacted with the women at the club you should have a good idea of whether or not she is down. Was she kissing on them? Touching on their breast? Making comments on body parts? How much was she into it? If there was a particular girl she was vibing, make mention of it. "Baby, you seem like you wanted to take home Cocoa." Tell her how sexy she looked messing with Cocoa. Offer in a joking manner to get her Cocoa for her birthday. Not for you and her, just her. Her response to all of this will let you know if you're ready for the next step. Next step, finding her a girl she would be interested in bringing home for herself. A lesbian club is a great place, many bisexual women are there. Make sure you are dressed to mother fucking impress. Smell is EVERYTHING. Subliminally, you're selling the package of both you and your girl. The potential should want to fuck your girl just as much as she would want to be fucked by you. Strive to be the baddest straight couple in the club and make sure your girl has the lead at all times. Never, ever, ever recommend a girl for her. Especially, not a friend of hers or yours. Remember, you are always on watch and being observed. Introduce, bringing home the girl as a pleasure for her ONLY. More than likely she'll want you to watch and get horny enough to want you to join in. Make sure you don't lose focus on your girl being the center of attention. Also, never make comments on the girls body. If you guys discuss it afterwards, stay on how great your girl looked and how nice it was to see her getting pleased. Especially, if you would like to have more than one session.

Good Luck! If you had any hiccups during the process, click on "contact me" button and I can throw some suggestions your way. Also, I would love to hear some of your stories.

Fuck the Shit Outta Me or Give Me Great Sex: Do you know the Difference?

So he says to me, " Baby I'm a fuck the shit outta you." My response, "ok but will the sex be good?" He looks at me confused. "Of course, you ain't hear me tell you I'm a fuck the shit outta you, of course it's gonna be good." I would never assume such a lie. I am hear to set the record straight. There is a HUGE difference between a man fucking the shit outta you and having great sex. If a man has great stamina and a good sized cock, he can pipe the hell outta your pussy. Please don't think for one moment that this is not appreciated. However, this can not be all. Especially, if you are in a long term relationship. Sex will quickly become a chore and both parties will eventually lose interest. The fact of the matter is there are alot more ways that our pretty little pussies can be stimulated and aroused. We have so many pockets of joy and nerve endings in our vagina that you could literally have a different experience every day of the week. I want to first speak up and say to my fellows, be gentle when you're fingering the pussy. I know your a "man" but ruff ass hands in the bedroom is not kosher. How would you like it if I jacked your dick rapidly with a glove that had pineapple skin texture? Be gentle!! Its not just the clit that gets excited with the touch but around the clit and in the vaginal opening. (softly and gentle) Why the rush??!! Take your time. When done right it can be very pleasurable and gets the pussy nice and gushy for you. Oral sex, stop running from it. If you eat pussy like your at a wine tasting convention, its wrong and you should stop. Great head doesn't mean you fixate your teeth, lips and tongue on my clit and suck. No, oral sex incorporates the entire sexual organ and its surrounding parts. Lets take a look at the following diagram:

All of the labeled parts should be included in this process. In addition, don't forget the inner thighs. Even a little nibble on the butt cheeks are nice. When done correctly, you'll have you're woman crawling up the walls begging for the dick. Now, once we add some penis to the mix, don't get too excited and just start pumping away. Tease the pussy and take some time to discover her secret pockets of joy. Change positions and pace frequently. Last, and most important, pay attention to your womans body at all times!!! Her body language is your cliff notes to her satisfaction. Don't think because Person (A) enjoyed it that the rest of the alphabet will. Following these guidelines will provide a distinct difference between a good fuck and great sex. So to the nigga that says he's gonna "fuck the shit outta me." No thanks, I'm more interested in Great Sex.

Poetic Justice: Congratulations, My Pussy May Appoint You...

They call me Willy Wonka cause the gold wrappers all I fuck with

If you come with any other colors your intentions must not be to touch this

Like the tootsie roll owl don't ask how many licks

Just keep on going like that bunny till my clitoris ticks

I'm a tell you like these fat bitches one size does not fit all

So don't play yourself buying XL when you really are a small

This ones short and sweat, straight to the fucking point

As long you handle this pussy right its your dick she shall appoint

The Sacrifices of Love: Are you Sure you're Ready???!!?

Is it possible to be in love with someone so much that you want to protect them from yourself? With age comes the divine wisdom of oneself. I remember when I was in high school, there was a new family that moved into the neighborhood. The kids were fraternal twins, one boy and one girl. As we all remember, high school has many similarities to a prison. The whole "fresh meat" and "breaking em in" concept was in full effect. I was a pretty little black girl on two feet (didn't know it then) and as a result wreaked havoc from my peers. The ring leaders of this witch hunt were these two wilder beast, broken home, apes that just hated my existence. I was confused as to why I was the chosen one because these bitches were so fucking ugly and pitiful, EVERYBODY and ANYBODY'S situation was better than theres'. One girls mother bought a house near her husband and his lover to compete and try to keep tabs. The other one was a Latchkey Kid that was so insecure she became a self proclaimed gang bang professional. Anyway, when these twins came to the school they swore on the bible that the guy was theres. They tried to tell him not to talk to me and told everyone that this guy was interested in them. I didn't quite know about sexuality, the power of pussy or seduction but I was determined to not let this year be another emotional beat down session. Within a few weeks I had this young man wrapped around my fingers. He loved him some Nina and was so proud to call himself "my boyfriend." He had not drank from the KoolAide the rest of the miscreants drank from and saw just how dysfunctional these girls and there followers were. He walked me to all my classes, held my books and we partook in public displays of affection. They were livid!! LMAO!! I loved it, finally an anecdote for these bitches venom. The sad part about this story is, I really wasn't checking for this guy. He was a sweetheart but I wasn't into him at all. I needed him in my life at that moment to help me deal with my situation. I am sure even as adults we have or are currently doing the same thing with someone in our lives. We are using them to fill a void, provide for you or to cover a truth. I was a strong supporter of this behavior until I fell in love for the first time. True love, once experienced truly mimics what the bible says it is. 1 Corinthians 13: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails." It is the most amazing feeling ever and the most self sacrificing emotion you will ever experience. When I realized that my actions were slowly starting to hurt someone I was with and we no longer had the same goals in the relationship, I opted to leave. This person was/is my best friend. It was my lifes mission to protect and support them and be the best wife I could be. I took this job very seriously and when I realized that I was the person they needed to be protected from, I had to make that difficult decesion. It would have been an unhealthy situation and I was not willing to not have that person in my life. If I had continued, it would have been a devastating end. So to my young readers, before you start tatooing names on your body, and proclaiming your undying love for someone. Allow yourself time to get to know that individual. When you are truly able to make difficult, unselfish decesions in your relationship and can sincerely profess to 1 Corinthians 13. Then maybe, just maybe you've tasted a little bit of that thing called love.

This video is of a young couple in New York. She just broke up with this young man and was saying goodbye. He decided at that moment to make a SELFISH and IRREVERSIBLE decesion that was all caught on a security camera. I show this video to send the message that this extreme is never ok and when I speak of "difficult decesions" I am not reffering to this. (CAUTION VIDEO IS GRAPHIC)