Nina's Video Reviews: Kerri Hilson & Her Pussy Poppin Video

Ok, I get it the bitch really took this shit to the edge. So, whats the problem with that again? I'm confused as to the reason behind the hype and people giving her a hard time. Truly loved her interview with Perez Hilton and she says quite confidently. "I am a freak. There are some nights I don't want to make love, I just want him to fuck me." My sentiments exactly!! Why is it when a woman chooses to be open, honest and blunt about her sexual needs, desires and preferences, shes given all kinds of negative labels. Secondly, I get the raunchy video but she is not the only R&B Diva that has pushed the envelope. I wonder what the media is going to do when the "big girls" (Precious and her crew) start freely expressing there sexual needs and desires. Armageddon!!!!

Scorpio & Sagittarius WARNING: A Match Made at Hells Carnival.

Ok, I really think 2010 was so not the year for me in reference to relationships. Both friendly and intimate. Every "potential" that I have met has been a Scorpio. I am grateful for one thing, and that is there amazing ability to sexually please. However, outside of the bedroom I want to kill them. I am a Sagittarius to the core, minus a few things. My astrological advisor warns me everyday to stay away from Scorpios if at all possible. She says that our relationships very rarely have any form of longevity and holds a very low success rate. In all fairness, these men find me I don't go looking for them. It takes certain strong qualities to get my attention and it seems the Scorpions know how to intrigue me. Problem is, they can never keep me. Or they do just the right things to chase me away. Truly water and fire signs with obvious results. The first Scorpion is an oldie but goodie. We have known each other for almost a decade and have never been anything other than fuck buddies. He's a very smart guy, career driven and super attractive. The first day we met we had sex. He was not afraid of the pussy and I loved it. Sex was intense and raunchy. He wasted no time and dove in like a pro. His cock was a nice length and he had the stamina of a Latin soccer player. Amazing, mind blowing, marathon length sex. The weirdest thing would happen though when we were done; I just wanted to leave, or I wanted him to leave. No hard feelings, I just didn't have any desire to have him around if we weren't engaging in sex. I don't know if the feelings were mutual or he was just rolling with the program, but its been this way for a decade. Another Scorpio that stuck out was a man that I damn near married. I was really into this one and we had a decent connection going on. This situation ended up being a long distance relationship. (something I wouldn't recommend to an enemy) Sex life when active, was off the chain! We would literally lock ourselves in a room and have sex the entire day, for a few days at a time. One day we counted 17 condoms in the garbage! #allinadayswork. Our relationship began to deteriorate once we no longer had an active sexual life due to the distance. An average 4 day trip to see each other would cost a minimum of $700. We were forced to find other things about each other that we could use to hold on to the relationship and keep the fire going. Clearly, there was nothing more he could offer me worth hanging on to if he couldnt fuck me on the regula. When I reminisce on that relationship, in hindsight I should have known it wouldn't last. It was based on an intense sexual connection with two very competitive and strong minded people. One thing I've noticed with Scorpios is that they can dish it but they cant take it. They will hold you to that hurt feeling for life. Ive never been one to wear my emotions on my sleeve. I prefer to feel out a situation and see how much the other person has emotionally invested. If I don't get the vibe I am looking for I very rarely will put my neck out. I don't usually leave or completely back off, I just keep things light and remain non-chalant until I get the signals I need to reassure I wont have to deal with rejection. Yeah I said it!! I'm woman enough to admit it. I hate that feeling. It's physically painful, draining and steals time. Needless to say, here I am with 2011 around the corner and I can honestly say Scorpions have truly been a waste for this Sagittarius.


Here's to a better 2011......*cheers* What are your Scorpio and Sagittarius stories??

Scorpio Man and Sagittarius Woman
Not an excellent match - to say the least! The love match of a Sagittarius woman and a Scorpio man is not likely to lead to much romance, as both the individuals are very different from one another. The constant fighting and arguing will prevent the formation of a meaningful relationship. Her playfulness and his fervor do not make a good combination at all. She prefers to go out, meet new people and be the center of attention. He needs to be at his own place, in his comfortable chair, with a small group of close people. And the differences just go on.
Scorpio Woman and Sagittarius Man
The zodiac match of a Scorpio woman and a Sagittarius man does not have very good chances of success. The dissimilarities are too many and too serious. She needs security, closeness and utmost devotion. He is only able to give her simple love and romance, not necessarily with all those qualities. His recklessness will go completely against her stability. She will want a serious relationship and he will want one that is open and does not make him feel possessed. Other than lost of cooperation, there is no way to make this relationship work.

With scores ranging from 1-5, here is where we rate:

Compatibility 1

Sexual chemistry 3

Communication 1

#fail

Who You Trying To Run Game On? I Aint No Basic Bitch!!

You can always tell what caliber of woman a man is use to dealing with based on his "game." Fellows don't get offended when I say game because u know its true. I've seen it with my own eyes. Men have a series of scripts (usually very similar,lord knows their not creative enough to have an array of options) they use when approaching women. Depending on how young they started they may have found a few that work for them or they may still be playing the "bread crumbs" in the ocean game. Just throwing it out and waiting with a net for the first sign of life. Ladies pay attention to what I am saying. This is how you can learn from other bitches mistakes and not fall victim to the fuckry. A Leopard never changes its spots, just the location. A man that's used to dealing with basic bitches, technically isn't advanced enough to finagle his way into the life of anything other than a basic bitch. Here's how they get by and slip under the radar. Desperation! The truth hurts ladies, I know but its true. Us BTTR women (Better than the rest) spend so much time working on ourselves. Careers, being independent, being beautiful, being successful. Its a lot of work and the more you better yourself, your standards in others are also lifted. When it comes to finding a good man, its a drought and a motherfucking recession. So you find yourself swatting away the trash everyday all day. That is a job within itself that can be exhausting and depressing. After a few trials and errors, we all go through that "I'm done with men" phase but who are we fooling? The need for companionship is apart of our DNA. So unless you're switching teams, you end up jumping right back into the trenches. Here's the story of my weekend and how me, a BTTR bitch almost got taken by a basic nigga. So I met this guy through a media channel. Both of our names were mentioned on a distribution list and I was intrigued by the logo. I didn't know if he was a she at this point but I sent a quick message giving whoever was behind the logo shout outs for the amazing graphics. Within seconds I get a response and he gives me his blackberry pin. We begin a series of spontaneous conversations around my blog and a little bit of what he does. He introduces himself to me as some "leader" in the music business. I'm never impressed by this because living in S.Florida EVERYBODY is the CEO of some company or has a record label or is affiliated with some music camp. In addition, I have no need or any interest in being in the music industry. I genuinely just enjoyed having conversation with him. He came across very cultured and we had great conversation around different topics. During one of our conversations, he told me he was coming down to Miami for business to do something with some artist. So of course, we made arrangements to link up and meet. As you all know my blog is very explicit and I discuss alot of raunchy topics, so of course every once in awhile our conversations were "adult." Nothing promised, just a lot of smack talk. Now to my BTTR ladies when you are meeting a guy for the first time. What are some things you expect? Me, depending on the location, I expect a nice meal, coffee or maybe just a few drinks. So this guy comes down and as soon as he arrives he links me. "I'm here and I am so excited to see you." I am equally excited to meet him. We have been talking on the phone and via BBM for a few weeks and I enjoyed what I had known thus far. He gives me his hotel address which for me was irrelevant because there is no way I am meeting a man I don't know anything about but what he's told me at a hotel. It was around lunch time so I told him we could meet up at XYZ place for lunch and a few drinks. Ok, ladies here is the punch line, you ready for this? This dude replies out of the blue, and I quote, "I don't have my own money to spend this weekend because I am here on business and they are paying for everything, so I am limited as to what I can do." I had to read his message at least seven times to make sure I wasn't missing something. I responded, "what does your company have to do with you as a man? I'm not looking for your company to pay for our outing. So exactly, what are you saying?" I already knew the answer to my own questions and figured dude out in 10.7 seconds but I needed him to know that he was not dealing with a basic chick. This guy probably thought I was impressed and moved by his stories of being apart of Hollywood and figured this was enough to get my goodies. His story of "not having his own money on this business trip" was what he thought would be enough to buy him sometime. Seriously, its obvious this man deals with little girls. This is the only type of female that would ever fall for a line like that. We don't live in the 1800's!!! You can get your own money form anywhere in the world. A few years ago, I went to Zurich, Switzerland on vacation. Somehow between my car and getting on the plane, I lost my debit and credit cards. I only had $100 cash in my possession. While waiting at the airport, I called my banks and told them what happened. I had my cards next day air waiting for me at the front desk of the hotel. In addition, during that 24 hour wait, my bank arranged for me to pick up some emergency cash at the local Western Union. Get on my level dude, obviously you're broke and/or was trying to run game. Ladies, out of sheer desperation I could have ignored these signs and wasted a perfectly good day on a joke. I didn't respond to his text and just ignored him that day. Sometime late that night he sends me a text stating how "I played him, and no hard feelings." No Hun, what you failed to realize is that I play Chess not Checkers and your game didn't work on me. Needless to say, that was a dead end. I still find it hard to believe that was his "game." I mean you really do not get anymore basic than that.

Lesson: Pay attention to the signs ladies. If it doesn't make sense, question it and present your concern. Sometimes men throw things out as a teaser, so they can categorize you. It is here you need to be very clear as to the caliber of woman you are. It will do one of two things; scare them away, which is great. Or have them realize your a BTTR woman and come correct.

Courting/Dating: What the Fuck is Going On????!!!

This is absolutely ridiculous! Ladies while Obama and Michelle work on getting us out of this recession, we really need to have an intervention with these men and place some serious fines and penalties on the enablers wondering around. Men have really lost touch with the art, etiquette and rules of proper courtship/dating. True Story: As you may or may not know I have been single for a little over a year now. My focus has been on getting to know Nina better, building my empire and raising a teenage son. I have never been one to approach men or women. There have been a few times that I had such a strong attraction and desire to fuck someone and I went for it. It was never anything outside of that physical need and had no opportunity for growth. Most recently there is a guy that knew of me and asked for my contact information through a mutual friend. He sends me a message via Blackberry Messenger. (BBM) In his message he introduces himself, tells me that he is attracted and would like to meet up sometime. I figure what the heck, why not give it a try. Now, I don't know what he expected or how he thought this was going to go. It became quite obvious within a short period of time that he needed a serious courting intervention. Every few days he would send me a message asking me how I am doing and ask when we would hang out. I always responded, "set it up and I will be there." Ladies, if a guy is pursuing you, it is his responsibility to arrange a date. One night he sends me a message and says "I wanna see you." So I give him my usual response. "Set something up." Mind you, this is almost a month of the back and forth texting, no phone calls yet. Then he asks me, "are you home?" I'm thinking, "Yes mother fucker, but what the fuck does that have to do with you?" Then he asks if he could come over and "hangout?" Nigga, are you fucking serious?? (that reminds me, I need to delete him from my BBM and block his number) We haven't spoken on the phone and you haven't even as much as brought me to a coffee house, but you want to come into my sanctuary and "hang out?" Get the FUCK outta here with that foolishness!!! What happened to the phone conversations, meeting for drinks, lunch, dinner or even a movie date? This is a grown ass man with some form of formal education and he doesn't even know how to properly date a woman? Ladies, we have REALLY made these men lazy and let this unbalanced ratio of men to women mess with their head. We are giving it up too easy, making them feel as though we are not worth the effort. This reminds me of the article I did a few months back called "The depreciation of the pussy." Cut this shit out ladies!!! These men continue this because we justify and lead them to belive this behavior is acceptable. I will never forget I was out one night with my girls and this guy was macking so hard, I swore he was on overtime with his bullshit. When he sees that I am about to leave and not paying his ass any attention he says to me. "I would love to just cuddle with you tonight. I just want us to hold each other like teddy bears." What???!!! I had about six cranberry vodkas and two shots of Patron in my system. I just started laughing uncontrollably. I dont know what happened, or when the guy eventually walked away but when I came up for air he was gone. Fucking pitiful! Being single is not a negative thing. It just means that you have standards and wont bend because your worth it. Compromise is something you make in a relationtionship when you've found someone thats willing to do the same. It shouldnt start any sooner than that. Also, I understand the change in technology and where it is taking us as a nation. However, stop making men feel as though a text is an acceptable replacement of communication. It is very impersonal and when you are getting to know someone, this is not a very reliable method. Let it be an addition to the courting not a standalone.

I'm Nina, and I approve this message.......

"I Can't Have Sex": The Truth Behind Sexual Disorders

I just finished watching a show on MTV called True Life: I can't have sex. It looked into the lives of three women that could not have sexual intercourse with their partners, due to the excruciating pain. One of the girls said that sex to her "feels like sandpaper or like someone running a Brillo pad in her vagina and then pouring alcohol." Can you imagine? That amazing gift called a penis can bring someone so much discomfort and anguish? The three conditions these women had were (1) Vaginismus: an involuntary spasm of the muscles surrounding the vagina. These spasms actually close the vagina. (2)Vestibulitis: a condition which causes redness, inflammation and pain of the vestibular glands. It prevents them from working properly or at all. The vestibular glands are in control of providing the moisture and proper lubrication for intercourse. (3) Pelvic Floor Disorder: The pelvic floor is a network of muscles, ligaments, and tissues that act like a hammock to support the organs. This disorder weakens the muscles, the ligaments or tissues are stretched or damaged and the pelvic organs drop down and protrude into the vagina. I was in complete shock as I watched these women in agony from being inserted by a diaphragm that mimicked the width and length of a tampon. Here is my theory: One of our defense mechanisms as humans is called repression. Repression is the unconscious hiding of uncomfortable thoughts. This is very common in men and women that have been sexually abused at a young age.  I think these women may have been victims and don't even know it. Their bodies had to shut down in order for them to mentally endure the abuse they experienced. Subconsciously, when their mind is aware that the act of sex is approaching, it reverts to a state that it has been used to from a very young age. True Story: I was invited a few summers ago to the wedding of a woman I had known briefly. As with most of my friends, she found my rawness refreshing and we became close very quickly. Emma, (her fictitious name to respect privacy) was getting married at 27 years old and she was a "virgin." I used to always poke fun at her because like unicorns, I didn't think virgins really existed after the age of 18. The morning after her wedding night she called me crying. Emma said the sex was so painful she had to make her husband stop and she felt herself getting angry and afraid at the same time. I understood the possibility of pain because she was a "virgin" but the other emotions threw me off. I told her it would get better with practice and gave her some tips. This went on for over a month and Emma even picked up smoking, something she said she hadn't done since her late teens. At this point I knew something was terribly wrong and recommended that she see a therapist. During one of her sessions Emma went under hypnosis and it was here she realized what was going on with her. Emma was sexually abused by her stepbrother and her stepfather from the age of nine till seventeen.  She never told anyone for fear that she would get in trouble. Her stepfather was an older, wealthy man that took very  good care of her mother and other family members. Apparently, this man would threaten to stop taking care of her mom and convinced her she would be to blame if she told anyone. This is the reason I put "virgin" in quotes when referring to Emma. What my poor friend didn't  know was that she was not a virgin and hadn't been since she was nine years old. Emma repressed the memory of her abuse so much that it took hypnosis to reveal this demon. After some time of therapy independently and with her spouse, they were able to eventually enjoy a healthy sexual relationship.  I truly give kudos to the men in these relationships. These were young people at their sexual prime. Being in a relationship with someone you are attracted to but can't have sex with them because it inflicts pain, is admirable. How much of this can one person take? All of the women stated they felt "less than" and unable to have complete and healthy relationships. I have said this before and will say it again, sex is mental. Like Emma, all of these women with the exception of one were able to overcome these disorders with continual psychotherapy and sexual exercises. The one woman that did not get better during the airing of the show, found out she actually had a fracture in her pelvic area and had a 6 plus month healing time frame after the needed surgery. There is a possibility that after she healed, everything may have gone back to normal. Ladies, sex is not suppose to hurt. I hope this article empowers you to have your self checked, officially diagnosed and begin the healing process.

Happy Birthday To Me & All My Fellow Sagittarians!!!!

Another year older, yes this is all true

Don't be late, we have a date for me to put this pussy on you

Make sure you take a nap,I need you to be resting

You promised to break my back and this commitment I will be testing

For your sake I hope that you pass with flying colors

If you fail to deliver,please know that I'll be telling others

Happy Birthday to me, lets begin the celebration

This grown ass pussy is ready for some penis penetration

Happy Birthday to me and all my fellow freaky Sagittarians

Always imitated but never duplicated!

Poetic Justice: Know Who You're Stepping Too

As I look at this bitch

I feel my trigger finger itch

She thinks she knows who shes dancing with

but like MTV diaries she has no idea

I pride myself on not burying more chicks

Disillusioned in thinking their grown cause they riding on dicks

Pussy doesn't make you a woman, in my eyes your still a runt

be mindful of what you say or who you confront

*************DEEP BREATH****************

Let me ease up of this temper and take a hit off this blunt

I'm trying really hard to not have this metal embrace your cunt

You see I have a past that not many are aware of

please believe I'm the bitch you should be afraid of

motherhood has changed me for the best

less lives I've opted to not put to rest

but like a dog that smells blood after a long break

hes quickly reminded of how easy it is to take

like the canine I sit her watching you bleed

slowly quenching my deepest and darkest need

I'm the demon in your dream

In your life story I'm the theme

currently working on the epic conclusion

Warning shots in the air

Listen closely my dear

cause I'm only gonna say this once

Get the fuck out my face

before I permanently erase

the existence of your natural being