Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Monday, August 30, 2010
I get the whole, "I'm gay and I like girls" thing. After all, I do dabble in a little pussy myself. What I just can not seem to understand is this whole gender crisis with women trying to look like men. I'm not referring to the transgendered population. (shit that's another topic itself) I am referring to regular women with vaginas, walking around looking and acting like hood niggas. Unfortunately, I see this foolishness in the black gay community mostly. As with everything else you always have your handful of white folks that "wanna be black." There disillusioned interpretation of "being black" is adopted from the worst kind of black folks. We call them "wiggas" (white niggas). Anyway, I went to a lesbian club a few months back and was so turned off, I left within the hour. Where were the beautiful lesbian women we see on TV? Here is what I saw. Mini Trick Daddy, Lil Wayne, Rick Ross and T-pain lookalikes running around. They were fat, obnoxious, smelled bad and looked fucking ridiculous. The "feminine" women didn't look any better. Everyone with the exception of 8 people were morbidly obese. They had tattoos of there 4 and five kids on their necks and arms. They were sloppy, had these horrid looking lace front weaves, just a fucking eye soar if you ask me. I was confused!! Whats going on? Is this what the young African American gay community have become? I had to call my best friend and interview her. She is a 29 year old lesbian woman living in the south and I just had to pick her brain on whats going on with her community. We talked for about 3 hours and it started to all make sense to me. So here is Nina's interpretation of WTF: Whats happening right before our eyes is "Lesbian Evolution." The younger generation of women and some of these old bitches have allowed men to run them to the ground. They have become used goods at a very young age. Allowing these men to abuse and destroy them. More and more we see these young girls 21, 23 years old with multiple children. Most of there bodies not being able to bounce back from all of these pregnancies on top of poor eating habits. So here is there situation: 3-4 kids, no education, stress of life trying to support them, still dealing with the fucked up niggas, bodies deteriorating and broke all before they reach 25. Now, if your a good man looking for a woman to marry and take home to mom. Are you going to want that? Of course not! These bitches are looking raggedy as all hell, can't hold a decent conversation due to a lack of education, old in the face and walking around with these fucked up figures. A good dude is not going to waste his time on that and the baby daddies continue to use them because they know they can't do better. It becomes a vicious cycle. Men see them as an easy fuck and keep it moving. Breaking there hearts and there spirits. This invoked the genesis of "Lesbian Evolution." We'll call this character Monique. Monique is a young woman that at an early age realized she prefers being with women. It is a hard reality coming out of the closet and embracing who you are. Monique is in desperate need for companionship. Most of her friends are guys, she observes there mannerisms and the things they do to get women. Problem is she has no penis. (well at least not one pumping blood and squirting semen) Monique has a crush on "straight Stacey." Stacey is all about her dude and doing everything to make him happy. Fast forward 4 years. Stacey now has 3 kids, 2 from her "dude" and a stray one from an encounter in between fights with baby daddy #1. At the tender age of 23, she looks like she is 43. Every attempt of a relationship fails because the men have no respect for her. They know she cant do much better so they treat her like shit. Another year and out pops another baby. During this time Monique was still around, being a good friend for Stacey. Being supportive and even giving her money when she needed. All with hopes that one day she could get a chance to be with her. Monique slowly starts to adapt her dress and swagger to the kind of guys Stacey tends to be attracted to. She remains a constant in her life, always showering her with nice things and playing the role of "gentleman." Eventually, Staceys frustrations with trying to find happiness or companionship with a man gets the best of her. Monique has been that constant in her life as well as her kids, something no man has ever done for her. It is here Monique is able to hone in on Staceys moments of vulnerability and seal the deal. So let us recap. What was the formula for Monique getting the girl? Shower the bitch with nice shit, help take care of her kids and start looking more like the niggas she fucks with. There you have it....the evolution of Lesbians. Stacey may not be comfortable with the idea of licking some pussy. So Monique makes it as comfortable for her as possible. Wraps up her breast, makes her strap on a permanent accessory and fucks Stacey how she wants it. Or better yet, how she's use to getting it. With time, Stacey will become more comfortable with Moniques female parts. Now all you have to do is multiple this story by thousands and there you have it. Nina's explanation and understanding of the "Lesbian Evolution."
Friday, August 27, 2010
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
your a bitch ass nigga
Monday, August 23, 2010
One of the best parts about being a writer, is you get to meet and know different types of people, with all different views on life and are usually not afraid to be open and expressive with it. When I did my post on bisexuality, I received alot of emails from men and women giving me there opinions on the article, as well as there opinions on the lifestyle. One young man hit me up on BBM asking if I had anymore pictures he could see. I'm not into that cyber shit, especially with strangers. So my response was,"look buddy its not that kind of party. I appreciate the love and I'm glad you enjoy my blog, but I don't get down like that." His response had me floored. He said and I quote, "I have a girlfriend right now plus I'm bisexual, so I think I have quite enough on my plate already." Holy Shit!! I just had to interview this nigga. So we chatted on BBM for a little bit and he tells me he's about to roll a joint, when he's done I could call him to talk. I felt like a customer standing outside the Apple store waiting for the new iPhone. I couldn't wait to chat with him. (we'll call him Jermaine) Jermaine is 25 years old and for the first 9 years of his life grew up in Dubai. (yes India mother fucker) His family decided to leave India in search of a better life and relocated to New York. Jermaine said he has always been very liberal. He was never molested or exposed to sexually explicit things as a young kid. I asked him about his first experience and how it happened. Where he was living there was a nude beach, he always wanted to go but never felt comfortable asking his boys to come with him. His intentions were to see some naked women and enjoy the sexual aura that's usually brought to those places. During one of his visits he met a lady and her boyfriend. They spoke for awhile and became acquaintances. The couple invited him over to there house for some drinks and smoke. Throughout the evening he said the topic of sex was sprinkled in there conversations. The girlfriend made mention of a threesome and asked Jermaine if he had ever had one. She went even further to say that she was very attracted to him and wanted to have a threesome with him and her boyfriend. Jermaine being open to most things sexually was excited with the idea and decided to try. During the first threesome things went as they usually do. Most of the attention went towards the girl. A few weeks later he met up with the couple again and they decided to have another romping session. During this session Jermaine said he noticed the positioning of the bodies were a little different. While he was eating the girls pussy he felt someones hands on his dick. Initially, he thought it was the girl but had some doubts based on the firmness of the grip. He kept eating the girls pussy until he suddenly felt a mouth over his dick. He knew immediately that it wasn't the girl because she was sitting on his face with her back towards his dick. I asked him what went through his mind at that moment. He said his biggest concern was wondering who would find out. Do these people associate with his people to ever have this encounter leak? I was confused by that statement and expressed myself as such. I said to him, "Jermaine, this is the gay moment most niggas talk about with there boys that if it ever happened they would fuck a nigga up, and your only concern was who would find out?" He said. yeah it was weird at first but then he got into it and performed oral sex on the guy as well. They didn't have full blown intercourse during this session, but you know I asked right? How the fuck did THAT go down? Usually when he goes over they they smoke, drink and talk shit together before they start fucking. One of the times he was over there they started talking about anal sex. The guy asked about it and wondered if he would be open to it. Initially, Jermaine said he declined but after some more drinks he slipped into. Blew my fucking mind!!! Ever since then Jermaine has had a few experiences that involved anal and oral sex with men. He said he even had 1:1 sessions with the couple. I wanted to know what was his attraction and what does his current girlfriend think about it. Jermaine's bisexuality is more of an oral fixation. He thoroughly enjoys the act of cunnilingus and fellatio. His girlfriend doesn't know and he said he has no intentions on telling her. He feels like somethings are better left unsaid. While, I can understand where he is coming from, I think he should be upfront with his choices. Especially if this is a woman you see as potential for wifey. She needs to know what she is getting into so that she can make a conscious decision to stay and bear or leave. Also, he shouldn't have to pretend to be something he is not. When you get married and things start to get monotonous your going to have these desires and cheat on your wife. It is so much easier for a man to cheat with another man because the suspicion is not there and the emotions are not there. Its easier to hide and less effort for the guy. I asked Jermaine where he sees himself relationship wise and he was torn between being with a woman or living with a couple. He doesn't have any emotional attachment to men, just women. He said he would never date a man. He sees sex as just an act and doesn't feel it differentiates between man or woman. We ended our interview leaving him with this thought........Are you willing to sacrifice a physical want/need for an emotional want/need? Which one is the need and the want, the Physical or the emotional?
Speaking with Jermaine was extremely exciting, I can definitely see more Nina interviews in the future.
Saturday, August 21, 2010
I went out last weekend with some gay guy friends of mine to a male strip club for men. It was so much fun and the "girls" do a great job at keeping me entertained.. Two things stuck out to me during my eventful evening. First, more than 50% of the boy dancers do not date men. Rather, they only dance at gay clubs because they make much more money. Secondly, the "DL" epidemic amongst our black men. I was amazed by how many men were in there with their wedding bands on. They were in groups, which means that these mens wives may know each other. They have no idea that there husbands are out at nights slapping on other mens asses, getting champagne rooms for all things imaginable and possibly fucking each other. Are we as women aware of just how detrimental this epidemic is to us? J.L King said in his book. "On the down low," that most "DL" men do not have protected sex because this would mean, they are "partially admitting to the fact that they are aware and fully conscious of the decision being made to have sex with a man."(crazy right?) This is one of the reasons HIV and AIDS have become so prominent amongst African American women. I am curious to know if these women at home do not see the signs? Do the husbands do that good of a job in hiding their secret? Or, do the wives just do a better job at ignoring it?
Friday, August 20, 2010
Those of us that work a 9-5 can admit to spending most of our time with our co-workers. There are 168 hours in the week. We sleep an average of 56 hours and work approximately 40-60 hours. This interaction happens week after week, month after month, year after year. People that were at one point a pain in the ass, slowly become tolerable. The fucked up tooth "John" has that was always unbearable to look at, doesn't seem to look so bad anymore. "Amy's" flat ass doesn't bother you as much. "Paul's" high pitch laugh now seems kind of cute. It is what it is, people start to grow on you. I dare ask, how many of you have actually crossed the line of mixing business with pleasure? I pride myself on keeping it 100 at all times. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you right? When I meet someone, I am very upfront with my intentions. I put my disclosures on the table to avoid confusion, hurt feelings or overstepping of boundaries. There is a guy I worked with that I was VERY attracted to. He was my usual, tall, dark and very handsome. I toiled for a good year on whether I should bless this little boy with some pussy. I had some concerns. Would he be able to fuck and walk away? What if he falls in love? What if he shows out at work because he can't get his own way? Some of you are thinking, "fall in love? Who does this bitch think she is?" Trust me, I say it because I live it. Niggas play and pretend that they can handle a woman that's just into an arrangement for her own personal pleasures. I'm here to tell you many of them can not. Even the married ones try to demand a receipt for the pussy. Anyway, back to my little friend. Over the year time span, we would flirt, talk shit, go out for lunch and have occasional late night conversations. I checked out his package every chance I got to ensure he had the proper tools for the job. I threw out little test questions like:"What positions with the exception of doggy style gets you in the pussy the deepest?" "What part of a womans pussy do you apply the most pressure with your tongue?" The kind of questions you can use to gauge his sexual intuitiveness. Finally, the day came. I revisited our understanding that this was just a physical thing, big mistake!!!! Should I start with what went wrong or what went worse? I should have been suspicious when he was getting aggressive with his probing questions around my whereabouts. This mutherfucker became my self proclaimed boyfriend. He thought that just because the sex was okay he shut it down. Whenever he saw me and approached me at work I'm getting WTF looks. One day he attempts to have an intimate moment in the damn break room, I lost it! That night I called him and dropped it raw. "Nigga, I'm not your girl and you are not my man. We fucked once and while it was okay it was not worth a repeat. Don't call my fucking phone, don't speak to or approach me at work, pretend you don't fucking know me!!" What was his response? "Come on Nina you can't tell me you don't have any feelings for me?" *Deep damn sigh*
Play where I eat again?
Of course I will, I'm Nina Niagra remember.......wink!
Thursday, August 19, 2010
This pre-booty call agreement (hereinafter referred to as the "Agreement") is entered into on the _____ day
of __________, 2010, by ________________, between ____________ and ________
THIS AGREEMENT SHALL COVER THE FOLLOWING RULES AND PRINCIPLES:
1. No sleeping over -- unless it is very good and we need to repeat it in the morning.
2. No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before the events of the evening.
3. No calls before 9 PM -- we don't have shit to talk about.
4. None of that "lovemaking" shit -- only mind-blowing sex allowed.
5. No emotional discussions -- Ex.: Where are we heading with this? Do you love me? The answer is no,
so don't ask.
6. No plans made in advance -- that is why you are called the "backup," unless you are from out-oftown,
then it's only a one-time advanced arrangement.
7. All gifts excepted -- money is always good.
8. No baby talk -- however, dirty talk is encouraged.
9. No asking for comparisons with former lovers -- it's really none of your damn business.
10. No calling each other "friends with privileges" -- we are not friends, just sex buddies.
11. Calling out the wrong name during sex is OK -- don't be offended.
12. No extra clothing -- I don't want your ass leaving anything behind when you leave.
13. No falling asleep right after sex -- it's over, so get your ass up and go home.
14. Don't be offended if I don't ask if you enjoyed it -- I don't care.
15. You cannot borrow my car for any reason.
16. If anyone asks who you are, the standard response will be: "My roommate's boylfriend"
17. Doggie style preferred -- just hit it hard and right or get the hell out!
18. Reason for doggie style: the less eye contact the better. I don't want to look at you, just fuck me.
19. We hook up absolutely whenever the mood strikes ME -- so don't keep calling.
20. The most important one -- no condoms, no fucking. Carry your ass home.
21. Bring your own drink -- I am not your liquor store.
22. No phone use, please -- don't want anyone calling back looking for your ass.
The aforementioned rules may only be altered by the holder of the agreement. If the other party
attempts to change or alter any terms of this Agreement, it will automatically become null and void
and you will then be removed from the BOOTY CALL LIST and deleted from phone memory and
email list. BLOCKED from all communications until your silly ass understands the rules.
Participating Party Signature_________________Date:________________
Participating Party Signature___________________Date:________________
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
I find myself tossed with this topic. As a "clinically categorized" bisexual woman myself, I know it's possible to be attracted to both sexes as well as have relationships with them. However, at the end of the day even I have my preference. The real question is does my preference become influenced by the pressures and expectations of society? Is it possible that just as people are color blind when they are attracted to someone can one also be blind to their sex? Choosing sides came with a great level of responsibility for me. I felt obligated to try and change the perception of African American lesbians in this country. I was in an amazing relationship with a woman for almost nine years she was my best friend, partner, confidant, lover, a parent to my child, my life, my world and my everything. We were the envy of "the community" as it was obvious to the outside world how much we loved each other and how close to perfection what we had was. During these nine years I was immersed in the gay lifestyle and had little connection with the straight world. I went to the clubs, did the pride walks, joined the committees at work and represented the rainbow to the fullest. I was a proud "labia licker" and loved my family. The last few years of that relationship became very painful for me, not because I didn't love my woman, quite the opposite, I was in love with her so much that it pained my heart to know that I couldn't give her the forever that I had promised. I missed being with men terribly it caused me to step out of my relationship and I saw even more damage to come. I love her too much to put her through that, she deserved better so I chose to end it. I will forever have a special place in my heart and have closed shop when it comes to dating women. Now fucking them on the other hand will always be a welcoming adventure. So does that make me bisexual? I truly believe that there are individuals who have no inhibitions when it comes to sexual pleasure and like most things in this country we are forced to categorize and label before we can make sense of something or accept it.
I leave you with this: Studies have shown that bisexuality is merely a transitional identity to a subsequent gay or lesbian identity. So is bisexuality a place of purgatory for homosexuals???
Monday, August 16, 2010
Yes I said it, it's your fault.
When a woman is courting a man, she puts her "best foot forward." Keeps the body right, understanding of his imperfections, sex on time, not too clingy, attentive to his needs, keeps herself clean, a pleasure to be around, allows him time with his boys, motivating, supportive, submissive (within reason) and unconditional with her love. As soon as any form of commitment is made, whether it be moving in together or marriage. Shit changes! Its like a fucking bait and switch. Why do we do this ladies? We turn into nagging, overweight, unsuppportive, demotivating bitches. We go from sex every other day to sex only on special occasions. What the hell is that all about? We are no longer the cheerleaders for our men. We stifle and dismiss there small accomplishments and efforts. We go from expecting nothing to demanding the world. We allow our friends to tell us how our relationships should be run when they cant even keep a man themselves. Or even worse, trying to fuck yours. They go from being our most prized possession to an inconvenience. Now, I fully understand that its not always going to be like a honeymoon. However, whats so wrong in trying? The question shouldn't be "why men cheat." It should be "why do women lose interest?" Our men fall in love with the full package that we present to them during that courtship period. It's with that material they make the decision to spend the rest of their lives with us. Will changes occur? Absolutely, but to what extent? These extremes that alot of us go through is just not acceptable. The key word here is accountability. Not many women are willing to admit there faults and contributors to the breakdown of the relationship. I hear women often complain, "I work, take care of the kids and keep up my house, what the hell does he expect? How can I workout and be fucking all the time plus tolerate his bullshit?" First, of all you don't get a medal for shit your suppose to do. Its your duty and should also be your pride to maintain your family. That's what you signed up for! Then you have the audacity to put on victim glasses when your man finds the bitch that will "put up with his bull shit?" Now, there is always an exception to the rule. As Foxyayanna said today in our Blackberry chat, (pin#225B080F) "men are just greedy and we let them." Definitely true in some cases. I do not condone nor am I against cheating but as a mistress once myself....I get it.
Step up your game ladies, remove your victim glasses and don't just look at your mans faults. Consider the possible faults of the entire relationship and the part you play. Rychie Rich said it best today in our chat "keep things interesting."
So, I'll say it again. Yes bitch, its your fault.
Sunday, August 15, 2010
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Friday, August 13, 2010
I am so proud of little momma. She has had a rollercoaster of a year. A great career, falling in love, having a baby to losing her loved ones in a tragic triple homicide. Now, please can Jenny Craig update there damn commercials? I'm just saying......the bitch dosent look like that anymore.
Thursday, August 12, 2010
Yeah, I said it!
I was having a conversation today with a good friend of mine. We both happen to be around the same age and came to the realization that our old asses are fucking cougars. I don’t purposely seek these young niggas out. I promise you I don't. It’s just something about them that catches my attention every time. What is it? Here is my theory: Women of today have become more comfortable with their sexuality. Our sex drive has increased and is at a level that our predecessors never experienced. Or they never had the opportunity to experience. Point blank, we like to fuck and enjoy doing it often. The problem is most older men have not yet caught up to the evolution of this new found freedom. Hence, there struggle to keep up. Now, if there is one thing we women know how to do, it is to survive under any circumstance. We are resilient. We know how to make something from nothing. We are moms, wives, daughters, mistresses, business owners. Ladies, we do it all and a damn good job at doing it. We quickly identified that men our age, whom we are actually attracted to just aren’t doing it. So, we shaved off a few years and decided to try out some younger blood. My friend today says to me. "No Nina, it’s not me. I'm not looking for them they just find me." Look bitch, I'm here to tell you that’s bull shit. You need to brush up on the section in the book "The Secret," where it talks about the "laws of attraction." Remember the older guy that fell in love on day 2? Has a stable career. Wanted to make you wifey and turn you into an honest woman? No, your fast ass wants the nigga fresh out the womb, still breast feeding. Here's my situation. I was fucking this guy for 9 years on and off. Sexy, tall, dark educated brother. When we first met he was a junior in college and we use to fuck each others brains out. It was nonstop. He lived a good 45 minutes from me but no matter what time of the day I called for some sex, he was there. We blessed every inch of my apartment and every inch of his dorm. It wasn’t a game people. We took this thing seriously. He kept up with me. He never complained, never asked for a break, never had erection problems and his shit was reliable. As soon as his bitch ass turned 30, everything went downhill. It hurts me to even talk about it. I feel like I lost a loved one to cancer. What the fuck???!!! I was/am so confused. How does that happen? I must say for the record, that not all of you young bloods know what you’re doing. Some of you need to get more practice, read a book, watch some movies. I don’t know, just figure the shit out. However, I want to give a personal shout out to my breast milk babies that have mastered the art of doing helicopters on a bitch pussy. I'm talking to the men (all backgrounds) that have taken the time to study and truly understand the physical needs of a mature woman. I dedicate this moment of silence to you…………………………………………………………………….
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
When it comes to meeting men, I have to say I'm old fashioned. This whole cyber dating thing was something I truly scorned upon and thought it was only for losers. I was in a relationship for almost 8 years, so when I became single again it was like a moment of complete disbelief. I could not believe what the fuck was going on around me. I went into shock for a moment and staying close to the things I was use to for security. This made my ex's life very difficult because they were completely trapped and didn't have the opportunity or time to get over me. As I slowly strengthened my understanding of the evolved world of dating. I decided to let a few folks in. This was a HUGE mistake. I was so not emotionally ready for that. Needless to say, it has been trial and error since then. One of the trials were me trying online dating. I'm still deciding on the error part.It was here I realized just how bold and confident the ugly mother fuckers of the world had gotten. It was also here where I realized why so many more women are licking pussy. Was it because I was being so impatient and expected to find me a man within 2-3 weeks or is it really just this damn bad? I really want to know from my readers. Whats your opinion on "cyber dating?" Is it just a legal way for two people to meet, have sex and a good time? Can you really find your life mate on there?
Monday, August 9, 2010
On my bosom it rest, slowly inseminating my chest Baby u promised me it wouldn't make a mess....
Knowing I would want nothing less, than to have your offspring sprinkled on my breast...
Or even my face..why let it go to waste, your a king so its my honor and duty to taste, its a recession so negative on me leaving a trace, even the saltiness I can assure you I intend to embrace.
I place no restrictions when it comes to pleasing you cause at the end of the day you my man and I'm your boo...
Sunday, August 8, 2010
Its 3:25am and I'm laying here thinking about someone that has me completly confused. The funny thing is my subconcious is upset with the fact that I won't allow myself to accept the reality of the situation. Is this Karma from my days of dishing heartache to people that once cared for me? I continue to justify the fuckry I'm dealt knowing it makes no sense. What is it about him? Is it the challenge that's turning me on? I have no shortage of love or prospects in my life....If it was someone else I could advise the hell outta this situation. For now....I take a deep sigh and let time run its course....or maybe I just need to get laid.....LMAO......its been over 3 months you know. Well 3 months since I've been with man...;-)